Of all the things we are taught during our schooldays and through further education, how to be a parent is not among them! It’s a curious fact: we learn about just about everything else, but when it comes to how to bring up children and the many pitfalls that face parents, there’s not a lot of help given to young people. Thankfully, now that we live in the age of the internet there is plenty of access to useful information on bringing up children, so we had a look around and found some of the best tips that might help enhance your parenting skills so you find life easier!
No Two Kids are Alike!
Here’s the problem: you might have a first child who is easy to handle, one that throws up very few obstacles across the years. Yet, you have another, and he or she is a nightmare, throwing tantrums all the time and – as they grow – becoming even harder to handle! It happens often, and it pays to remember that no two children are alike.
However, a good starting point for any child is to take the time to identify their strong points. This is important as you need to help the child build confidence. Often, bad behaviour comes about thanks to the child being stressed over something that they find difficult. Teach them that while one thing is hard for them, others come naturally, and that’s the same for each of us. Using this method will allow the child to build upon what they are adept at, and become more confident in themselves.
When it comes to punishment, it is of course very important when child is misbehaving. Yet, it is all to easy to overlook times when they have achieved notably. At this point, you should praise your child as they are looking for appreciation and understanding from the parent. Likewise, when a child does lose control, take a positive attitude rather than berating them or resorting to ridicule. This will help them find the boundary between acceptable and not-acceptable behaviour.
If you have more than one child, there’s always going to be an element of sibling rivalry. The problem lies in doing your best not to display any favouritism towards one or another. Every child will feel that they are not getting as much attention as another sometimes, and it is important that the parent makes clear this is not the case. Take care to spend as much time with each child, and show an interest in everything they do.
The trick to good parenting is perhaps to imagine how you would have responded – or perhaps did – to certain actions from your parents as a child. This should allow you to see where mistakes can be made and help you plan your parenting more effectively.
This is by no means a comprehensive article, but we hope we have helped point you in the right direction, so enjoy being a parent; it is, after all, one of the most joyful occupations of all!